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Emily Hess's avatar

Lots to think about and wrestle with here.

I think part (though not all) of the reason that people (well...conservative leaning people, which I primarily identify as) are so resistant to talk of reformation and change in structures in the Church is that there's also currently a push to change Church teaching itself, especially as regards sexuality.

That's not the type of change that's needed, of course. But I have found the people most willing to talk about changing the systems in the church to stop abuse are those who are also more open/sympathetic to (if not outright pushing for) changes in Church teaching. More conservative people seem to be more likely to take the "bad apple" philosophy and believe it's more a question of just getting the "right" people into place.

It's a scary and frustrating thing to be in-between those two realities. I do believe systematic change needs to happen, but I also understand the fear of those changes being taken advantage of and confusing the truth (which I think is a separate issue from figuring out how to effectively and compassionately preach the gospel to those who feel alienated by those truths, but I digress).

I've honestly just spent an awful lot of time feeling deeply confused and lost about the whole thing, and trying to just focus on the people in front of me (and hoping I don't mess that up, one way or the other).

(And then there's those who don't want to change things because it's inconvenient or they're benefitting from the current system in some way...don't really have much sympathy for that, though I recognize facing that can take some courage).

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Laura T's avatar

This is an institutional problem, regardless of where it happens: religious, military, educational. What about an invitation for recovery that begins in FORMATION... bringing all our brokenness out of isolation into the Light of God. If it's not talked about from the outset, it's already too late. So many need recovery but are afraid to let others know... I love my recovery and have seen so many, even former abusers, find it.

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